17.11.08

Stranger Anxiety

Nanaco has stranger Anxiety since she was 2 month old.... Now, it seems not improved.

Couple weeks ago, we attended a wedding receiption, Nanaco went with us. People loved to play with Nanaco but she didn't get use to it. For example, when we waited an elevator going down to lobby, she kept looking at someone new. When that one noticed her and smile & talking to her, she starts making "em..... em....." sounds. Warming people keep away from her.

An expert said it is "Your baby is going through one of her first emotional — stranger anxiety. Children this age become very clingy and anxious around new and even familiar people and may cry if suddenly approached by a stranger. Your child may also be more anxious around new people when she's tired, hungry, or sick. Keep this in mind when you're around people she doesn't know, and try not to be upset or embarrassed when she cries in someone else's arms. To calm her down, take her back and hold her yourself. If you explain that your child is going through a normal phase, your friends will understand. Tell them that when they approach the baby, slow gentle movements will produce less anxiety than sudden ones. If your child refuses to be held by a friend or relative, try a slow desensitization process. First, work on having her be comfortable in your arms while the other person is around. Then, have the person talk and play with your child while you hold her. Then, hand him over to the other person for a short time and stay close. Finally, try to leave the room for a few minutes, and see how it goes. If your child bawls, try again. Go in and out of the room and eventually, your child will be secure in the knowledge that even though you're not around at the moment, you'll always return shortly.

Tried above method last Sunday when Auntie Alice and her sister came to visit us. It helps!

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